Letting Go of Fear and Becoming the Person You were Meant to Be!
What is fear?
In order to talk about fear, we need to have a clear understanding of what fear is and how it manifests in your life. Fear is a negative emotion or idea in response to the belief that something bad will happen to oneself or to someone of importance.
The continued fixation on thoughts and beliefs surrounding this point of fear causes the intensification of emotions which serves to lock the individual in a never-ending saga in which there is no escape. Consequently, this fear can be debilitating and cause one to avoid certain things and/or people. This behavior can be limiting and prevent them or someone else from accomplishing goals.
Why is fear necessary and when is it not?
Fear is a primitive tool that assists us in our decision making. It helps us understand when danger is present and activates that primal fight or flight response which can and has saved lives. The fight or flight response causes our body to go through certain physical changes, such as the heart rate increasing, tunnel vision, muscles becoming tense, excessive sweating and hypersensitivity.
How does fear become excessive?
Fear can become excessive or unnecessary when individuals who are not in the presence of real danger are unable to accomplish everyday tasks. These individuals enters into the fight or flight response when in the presence of people or things that they have associated fear-based emotions. They will experience the same bodily sensations as if they are in true danger. This fear can become all encompassing and so limiting in that it impacts their daily life negatively and prevents them and others they love from achieving goals.
Fear can develop from childhood in which a negative idea or thought was attributed to something or someone and never properly dealt with. For instance, some people have a fear of public speaking and, consequently, they may avoid social situations. This fear may have developed during childhood, as a result of some negative comment or action from another person. This incident may have caused the individual to suffer from extreme stress and activate the fight or flight response. Every time this individual is in a social setting or thinks of socializing with others, they may experience these same symptoms and ruminate over what happened in the past and create further negative emotions that trap them in the cycle of fear.
Fear is an example of how one’s negative thinking can manifest in their reality. If the individual is able to change their negative thoughts surrounding the object of their fear then they will be successful with breaking through this cycle. Unfortunately, many people who live with fear have been trapped thinking the same negative thoughts for so long that they do not know how to escape them. As we know our thoughts create emotions and those emotions are responsible for our repetitive rumination about the object of our fear.
Is their help for people who live in fear?
Yes, there is help for people who cannot escape the cycle of fear. First, it is important for one to understand how this fear developed. Once they have this understanding, they can begin to work at the source of the fear and break down their thoughts associated with it. Secondly, it is important for a person living in fear to write down their fears and examine them and identify whether any of their ideas associated with this fear is based on fiction or fact and write down the factual thought. Thirdly, one should go over their list daily in order to change their negative associations to reality-based thinking. Finally, if one finds after completing these steps that they are unable to rid themselves of their fear, then they should seek help from a professional. One successful tool that therapists can utilize is hypnotherapy, as it has been proven successful with reaching the subconscious mind in order to change negative thought patterns and rid one of those thoughts which can create the fear-based emotions.
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